I just wanted to take a moment to say what an amazing woman my daughter-in-law is. Truly. My stepson is fortunate to have her, and I feel very fortunate to have been able to forge a relationship with her despite her other mother-in-law trying to prevent it.
My daughter-in-law has been through so much and yet she soldiers on. She is STRONG!! and only getting stronger. Life has thrown some real shit her way lately, but she is dealing with it, despite going through grieving the death of her mother. She has to deal with dividing her mother’s estate, which is added onto her other responsibilities of being a mother to 4 kids (3 of whom are special needs of varying degrees), a wife, and an EMT. This leaves her little time to herself, and very little time to grieve the death of her mom. I don’t even know what to say to my daughter-in-law because I know this is beyond difficult for her. Nothing I say can take away her difficulties or take away her pain. I just try to be supportive with what little energy I have. I wish I could do more.
In addition to all this, some rotten asshole keeps calling CPS on my daughter-in-law. We think it is my stepson’s mother. It is hard for me to fathom that she would stoop that low but there is no one else I can think of that would be that rotten to my stepson’s family. My daughter-in-law is not perfect, by no means, but she is an excellent mother. She makes mistakes, as we all do, but I know she loves her kids, she fights for them, she has gone through hell trying to do what is best for her kids. All on top of trying to deal with her own issues, and without taking it out on all those around her. I cannot state it enough how much of a great mom she is: she makes homemade meals, cleans, plays with the kids, tries to make sure they are doing alright in school, and gets them involved in healthy activities. 4 KIDS! It is a lot.
CPS has been called in the past, and they did have an open case a few months ago. CPS was a big help to the family, but overall found nothing that my daughter-in-law was doing wrong. It was mainly issues with getting the family mental health help that they needed, especially in regard to my autistic grandson. It was basically an issue of Community Mental Health dragging their feet and not wanting to take my grandson’s needs seriously. The case was closed.
But now someone, within the past month, has called CPS twice and made allegations. The first time, no case was opened. Not sure what these new allegations are, but I am assuming they are bullshit. It is just someone wanting to cause trouble for my daughter-in-law because they can’t control her, and/or because they are jealous. It may even be a stupid ploy to get to my stepson, to make him fall in line….or to push my daughter-in-law over the edge, so she has a mental breakdown, making trouble for the whole family. So this rotten someone can feel right, can feel vindicated in some way. What a nasty piece of shit.
It won’t work.
My daughter may be struggling right now, but she is strong. She is strong!
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