Daughter

I just wanted to take a moment to say what an amazing woman my daughter-in-law is. Truly. My stepson is fortunate to have her, and I feel very fortunate to have been able to forge a relationship with her despite her other mother-in-law trying to prevent it.

My daughter-in-law has been through so much and yet she soldiers on. She is STRONG!! and only getting stronger. Life has thrown some real shit her way lately, but she is dealing with it, despite going through grieving the death of her mother. She has to deal with dividing her mother’s estate, which is added onto her other responsibilities of being a mother to 4 kids (3 of whom are special needs of varying degrees), a wife, and an EMT. This leaves her little time to herself, and very little time to grieve the death of her mom. I don’t even know what to say to my daughter-in-law because I know this is beyond difficult for her. Nothing I say can take away her difficulties or take away her pain. I just try to be supportive with what little energy I have. I wish I could do more.

In addition to all this, some rotten asshole keeps calling CPS on my daughter-in-law. We think it is my stepson’s mother. It is hard for me to fathom that she would stoop that low but there is no one else I can think of that would be that rotten to my stepson’s family. My daughter-in-law is not perfect, by no means, but she is an excellent mother. She makes mistakes, as we all do, but I know she loves her kids, she fights for them, she has gone through hell trying to do what is best for her kids. All on top of trying to deal with her own issues, and without taking it out on all those around her. I cannot state it enough how much of a great mom she is: she makes homemade meals, cleans, plays with the kids, tries to make sure they are doing alright in school, and gets them involved in healthy activities. 4 KIDS! It is a lot.

CPS has been called in the past, and they did have an open case a few months ago. CPS was a big help to the family, but overall found nothing that my daughter-in-law was doing wrong. It was mainly issues with getting the family mental health help that they needed, especially in regard to my autistic grandson. It was basically an issue of Community Mental Health dragging their feet and not wanting to take my grandson’s needs seriously. The case was closed.

But now someone, within the past month, has called CPS twice and made allegations. The first time, no case was opened. Not sure what these new allegations are, but I am assuming they are bullshit. It is just someone wanting to cause trouble for my daughter-in-law because they can’t control her, and/or because they are jealous. It may even be a stupid ploy to get to my stepson, to make him fall in line….or to push my daughter-in-law over the edge, so she has a mental breakdown, making trouble for the whole family. So this rotten someone can feel right, can feel vindicated in some way. What a nasty piece of shit.

It won’t work.

My daughter may be struggling right now, but she is strong. She is strong!

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More Background Information

More background information on how my stepson’s mother behaves and how she treats him and others. She wants him to make his own decisions as long as they align with what she wants. The kid is 30 years old now, and she still treats him like this! Plus, she wants to rewrite history and pretend this incident from 2012 never happened, but here it is. A post I wrote IN 2012 detailing the events. I am so glad I felt like writing back then and tried to note events as they happened. I need to get back to that.

I talk to people about her behavior now and they ask the same question, “What is wrong with her!?” and “What is her problem?” I have my ideas, but it is still difficult to understand. After all this time, this 50 something year old woman still behaves like a toddler who can’t have their way.

On top of it all, she had the nerve to tell my stepson that I traumatized her. I’d like to know how I did that. Of course, she never has the balls to actually talk to me, or write to me, or anything. She answers for nothing. She spouts off a bunch of untruths or half-truths in order to make herself look good but answers to nobody for her shitty behavior. How did I traumatize you Sue? How? By writing a blog? You don’t have to read it. By sending you a few emails? You didn’t really have to read those either. You are just lucky that I have never directly confronted you. My own counselor laughs at your accusations of being traumatized by me. She said, “You could have went really ghetto on her. With all she has done, she’s lucky you didn’t punch her in the nose.” That’s damn right! I never threatened Sue, though she certainly threatened my husband; not with violence but in other ways, and she used their son as a pawn in her game. Those are the real trauma victims: my husband and his son. I guess by writing about those times, I traumatized her. Bitch, it’s your own behavior that traumatizes and continues to traumatize. It is hurting the grandkids! This is what I never wanted, as Sue should well remember.

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Published in: on May 11, 2024 at 2:18 pm  Leave a Comment  
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My Mini Me

I have always wanted a daughter. I was not blessed with any children of my own. I do have one stepson though, and I am so happy he chose a woman JUST LIKE ME to be his wife. My MINI-ME, *Mrs. McGlinchey JR*. It’s crazy how just alike we are! I didn’t think it could ever be possible. We have really bonded over our sameness, we are two bodies but of one mind. She even started a blog and enjoys writing. I love her! To us! The McGlinchey women!!

Ha!

Only some of that is true. I do love my daughter-in-law. I would be so fortunate to have a daughter like her. I am very proud of her and all that she has overcome. The more I learn about her the prouder I am to know her. I also feel fortunate that my stepson chose Beth as his bride and I wish nothing but the best for both of them. Beth is not my mini-me–I was joking about that. Beth is her own beautiful self and I am happy to know her, happy that she has opened her life to me. We do have many things in common and that is lovely, but I have never wanted a “mini-me” even if I had been blessed with a biological daughter. I only ever hoped I would have a daughter that was brave, loving and kind, and smart too. I have been blessed with Beth, who is all those things (and bonus: she is a good writer); this has brought me great joy. We are bonding and for that I am thankful. I did not think that would ever be possible because my stepson’s mother tried to keep us from having a relationship. Beth tried to bring everyone into her vision of family, she tried to fix the rift between my stepson’s two families. Unfortunately, that rift is too great to overcome, at least for now, but I will always be grateful to Beth for trying and that she gave me a chance to be her mother-in-law and grandmother to her children.

I feel very blessed!

To the McGlinchey women! May we conquer the world and triumph over the evil that has tried to take us out.

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