This is why I believe wholeheartedly in counseling therapy:
Depression and Stepmotherhood
Oh yeah, been there, done that. Great article (blog post?) on the Huffington Post:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mary-t-kelly-ma/singing-the-stepmother-bl_b_3683834.html
Office Back?
Looks like I might be getting my lovely lavender office back. Yay! I can’t wait. I made plans for it…my husband made me a lovely desk and painted the office…I started decorating and BAM! My stepson moved in last year…
Now it looks like he is moving out. Sadness…..NOT! LOL
We could use the extra room…and it will be nice to have my office back. Extra storage, extra place to put my books, extra place for the kids to do homework….extra place for privacy.
I was hoping my stepson would stay with us until he paid us back. He owes us money for the POS truck he wanted when his mom took away his car as well as for the 5+ months he wasn’t working while he went to EMT school and we supported him. Unfortunately we could not afford to give him more than a roof over his head and food at the time. What he owes is for gas, auto insurance, and repairs/parts for that POS truck– his Dad was nice enough to loan him that money so he could get back and forth to class. Nobody else was going to.
I was also hoping my stepson would have enough sense to live with us (rent free, mind you) long enough to not only pay us back tout de suite or ASAP but to save up some money for a place– at least have a rainy day fund in place. It makes sense to me, especially knowing my stepson and how stressed out he gets over little stuff…or shall I say knowing his lack of stress management. Heck, if he keeps working like he has he could save for a down payment on a house, but only living rent free. I know once he gets out on his own he won’t be able to save. Of course he has no concept of what it actually costs to live on his own and the bills he will have to pay. So that is why I was thinking it was cool of us to let him live rent free while he saves up some money– for either a rainy day fund or a down payment on a house. Dumb-ass impulsive kid doesn’t see it that way of course. He must go out there and make his mistakes I guess.
Of course he thinks he has it made now. He thinks jobs last forever and its easy to live on your own.
And then there is his dumb-ass mother feeding into all of this. She can’t talk sense to him because she has her own mixed-up agenda. Sure go out unprepared and get a place of your own…sure…no savings, a car payment, and an impulsive kid who can’t handle stress. That makes perfect sense.
But I’ll get my office back! Yay! And one less person mooching off my grocery and household goods money. Can’t wait…
Selfish
It always pisses me off when I see a parent not doing right by their kid…which may be shitty (judgmental?) of me since I am not a parent BUT I can’t seem to help myself. I absolutely cannot stand parents who continuously put their needs and desires ahead of their kids– please don’t have kids if you know you are selfish (in many ways) and/or a control freak!
And I must admit, I did not have my own children because I have always known I am a selfish bitch! You can call me anything but self unaware.
What I am dealing with here are the children of two types of selfish mothers. One that puts her ego (and desire to feed it) and need to control above all else, including her child. The other one puts her need to party and be a ho above all else, including her children. You know when I think of it, there are elements of both types in each mother, I just caught them at different stages of their journeys.
Shaking my head, shaking my head….I just don’t know anymore. So sick of the bull shit and cleaning up after other people.
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