I hardly know where to begin. It is such a mess. This is something I never wanted. Though I do take a certain amount of satisfaction is some karma being served, but it hurts those I love. This is what gives me the blues. All I ever wanted was my stepson to have healthy relationships with all his parents. I wanted that for his wife and kids too–to have healthy relationships with all involved. I guess we can’t have that because I am in the picture. If I am there it sets my stepson’s mother off. It is a damn shame, but something I have no control over, other than to disappear from the whole equation. But would that be enough? Would my husband, my stepson’s father have to disappear too? I have always said that is what the sharmuta (my husband’s ex-wife, my stepson’s mother) wanted. She just proved me right with her latest shenanigans. You’d think that would burn her britches to no end and make her modify her behavior somewhat but no, it hasn’t. She went and disowned her son, his wife, and kids because she couldn’t control them. Because they chose to have something to do with me and my husband, and my husband’s family. I even warned her, I told her long ago I wasn’t going anywhere. She must have doubted me. I also asked her (long ago) if she really wanted the ill feelings she had towards me and her ex to trickle down to her grandchildren. She noted it but obviously didn’t really think about it. It’s always about control with her. Always. She is right, everyone else is wrong, and no one else deserves any respect or recognition but her. Sorry honey, that’s not how life works. You may have gotten away with your bad behavior for many, many years but eventually that shit catches up to you.
–I will be adding to this throughout the day but I just wanted to get it started.–
I meant to come back to this the day I originally posted my intro but so much has happened I haven’t had time or energy. Plus, I am having trouble writing about all this. It just makes me so angry it is hard to write cohesively and constructively about this complicated mess.
The Situation
Jacquelyn's Space 
I don’t think you disappearing would be enough nor do I want that, the kids don’t want that either. The way I see it, it’s her loss and she can sit in her misery knowing she missed out on that connection, this is time she can never get back. Her loss, your gain.