I am not a happy camper lately. Unfortunately I am angry and depressed. I can admit that; I am strong enough to recognize and shout to the world my issues.
I try to pinpoint why I am unhappy. Everything is muddled. I got off track somewhere.
For one: I hate to admit it…it truly hurts to admit it, but I really want my damn house, my LIFE, back to myself. I want all kids, all people under 40 OUT. OUT! I just want it to be me and my husband.
UnHappy Camper Part 1
My stepson has been living with us since his mom kicked him out. That wouldn’t be so bad except the kid refuses to grow up. Truly. His mom thought he was grown–NOPE. I knew he wasn’t but I thought he had more maturity than what he has displayed living with us. I guess the biggest reason I am pissed at the kid is that he contributes nothing to the household funds (and little to the household in general)–eats my food, uses household goods, doesn’t clean ANYTHING at all–and he barely makes a half-hearted attempt to pay his dad back the money he borrowed (he owes his dad a couple of thousand). Of course, since the kid is 20 we do not get child support. The kid did not receive any support from his mom after she kicked him out or after he was seperated from the Navy. Oh yeah– she ‘helped’ him buy a truck he cannot afford…or can barely afford (which is the least she could have done providing she demanded for the return of the kid’s old car when she kicked him out). I don’t know if she helpd him out financially but I know she co-signed for him. I can imagine the kid makes the truck payments (or face the wrath of his mother) but I do know he let his auto insurance lapse because he couldn’t pay the bill. Can’t wait until his mom finds out about that. Hope he doesn’t have an accident.
And why can’t the kid pay his insurance on his vehicle? I really don’t know– he brings in at least $1400 a month and lives rent free. He isn’t paying his dad back the money he owes him; only a little here and there but nothing substantial. So where is all his money going? Oh yeah, it might be the fact that he has been frequenting the adult entertainment establishments on Dort Highway with his old friends from school and/or his new friends in EMS. Now really, I don’t care if he goes out (or where), I don’t care if he hangs with friends. All I ask is that he takes care of business first. Pay your damn bills.
Now, what should I do? I really want to kick his ass out too. My husband is afraid that he won’t get paid back if he kicks his son out. Probably not. The kid doesn’t even recognize that a debt to family is like any other debt and should be paid back. I have borrowed money from my dad numerous times and he was my priority– the person I paid back or set aside money for first before any other bill. The kid doesn’t get that. It is a damn shame too, that he’d take advantage of us the way he has.
So to kick him out or no? On one hand I don’t want to because I want my husband to get his money back and I do want to be supportive of my stepson. On the other hand, I don’t want to support his selfishness and self-centeredness and I truly believe the kid needs some consequences.
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