I sort of have a stepmother now. My parents split up in 2012 (after 42 years of marriage) and divorced in 2013. Once my dad realized he couldn’t save his marriage, he hooked up with an old high school girlfriend. Soon they were living together at her place. Then they moved up to my dad’s place up north.
The place my parents made for their retirement.
Needless to say it is a little weird to go there and have another woman in my mother’s place. Even for me, a woman in her forties — it is hard to see your parents have relationships with other people. I can’t imagine how kids (children with divorced parents) deal with it. I don’t have to live with either parent so I can just acknowledge the awkward, strange feelings and move on…putting it behind when I go on to live my own life, in my own home.
My dad and his girlfriend aren’t married yet. I don’t know if they ever will be. I am not sure how I’d feel if they decide to get married. I certainly don’t need another mother. I feel I am too old for a stepmother. Ha…
But me and her (her name is Patty) tread easy. She is nice and we seem to have much in common. She does not seem to be the mothering type, at least not with me. She probably realizes I am too old for a new mother. I do know Patty does not like my mother and I am okay with that. I didn’t like my mother much either, after what she put my dad through. Patty became reacquainted with my dad in the middle of the shit-storm. Of course, I hope everybody can get along in the future.
And I hope, with time, that the awkwardness, the strangeness of the situation will fade.
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