Jacquelyn's Space

I couldn’t sleep (sick again-yuck!), got bored with Facebook and my Kindle so I started dreaming…I have a dream, one I have had for a long time and this morning I made a plan to turn my dream into reality. I don’t want to put it out there yet, don’t want to jinx it or anything; I just wanted to remember this morning and my plan. I will make it happen, I am determined.

Child support law ‘outrageous’

Child support law ‘outrageous’

http://www.woodtv.com/dpp/news/target_8/lawmaker-calls-child-support-law-outrageous

Yes, child support laws definitely need an overhaul. It is only what I have been saying for years now, not to mention the multitudes of men who have complained of it for generations. Of course nobody listens to them because they are just ‘bitter’ and/or are ‘deadbeats’. No, men have been getting screwed over by child support laws and the FOC for too long now and they have just had to take it because the judicial system is biased in favor of mothers, or the motherhood myth. Terrible!

RANT:

Too many mothers get away with too much BS:

Too many mothers are deadbeats, but perhaps not in the traditional sense. Too many mothers trying to make fathers out of men that either are not truly the father or aren’t ready to be yet– and the men do not have a choice in the matter. Too many mothers get away with BS and living off their KIDS money or financing THEIR own (the mother’s) dreams and wants off money designated for them to care for their children.

Too many mothers are allowed to pass off the responsibility of raising and supporting (financially and otherwise) onto others. I don’t know why– is it because they think just giving birth is enough? Too many mothers think everyone owes them for their decision, their choice to have children; that they ought to be paid for giving birth and raising their own children.

Too many mothers do not want to do the hard work and to have the responsibility that comes with children but they expect from the men they choose to procreate with.

Too much unfairness, too many double standards; too much deceit and myth-making.

Ugh! Hard to believe I am old enough to be a grandma. Yikes! I have always wanted to be a grandma but not in my early 40s.

Thankfully, I am not going to be a grandma soon but my sis, who is a year younger than me, just became a grandma. I can’t believe it. Well, I believe it because I went to the baby shower, saw my niece’s pregnant belly, and now I have seen pictures of the new baby girl. My sis is over the moon and it is a joyous occasion.

But…

I remember when my sis had her daughter, the new mother. Seems like not long ago I was going to Lamaze classes with  my sis Rachel, and then going to the hospital to meet Stephanie. I remember little Stephanie, not new mommy Steph…how could time have flown so fast?

And, but…

I might be a little sad, perhaps a little envious. Well, I don’t really want to be a grandma NOW but it would be nice to have my own kid, a daughter. IDK…

Here is what I messaged my husband about it:

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  5:45pm

  Jacquelyn McGlinchey

  Rachel is a grandma now! Stephanie had her baby.
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  5:46pm

  Charles McGlinchey

  Cool
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  5:48pm

  Jacquelyn McGlinchey

  PITY PARTY:Yeah, cool for her; It is her dream. Not to cool for childless me and plus I don’t want to have a friend, a year younger than me, that is a grandma already. I am going to go cry in my room now.
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  5:51pm

  Charles McGlinchey

  You are too young to be a grandma.

  —

True, though I am already an Great-Aunt, and have been for almost a year now. Yikes, I can’t help but feel old.

And there is always my friend Melissa– who is 20 days younger than me, ha– to remind of that:

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  5:44pm

  Jacquelyn McGlinchey

  Did you see, Rachel is now a Grandma!

  yikes!

  That means we are old enough too. Not fair.
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  5:54pm

  Melissa Heighes Farmer

  Maybe u..im younger then you
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  5:59pm

  Jacquelyn McGlinchey

  Well, Rachel is younger than both of us! So there! And you ain’t got big boob either!!
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  5:59pm

  Jacquelyn McGlinchey

  
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  6:00pm

  Melissa Heighes Farmer

  Lol….
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  6:00pm

  Melissa Heighes Farmer

  

I am super excited now. I have plans for a two night stay at the Grand Hotel in August. Everything is booked and I have made our Island itinerary. Maybe I will finally get to try out the famous Grand pool that Esther Williams swam in! LOL….I can’t wait and I can barely keep my mouth shut about it but I have to because I am taking my nephews and I don’t want them to be excited too early… and they will be too because I have been talking up Mackinac.

It is a mini-vacation. We are going up north for 5 days, I hope. I plan on spending a couple of days at my Mom’s new lake house and going with her to our family reunion and then on to Mackinac, taking a scenic route through Traverse City and partly along the coast of Lake Michigan, past Charlevoix and Petosky and on to Mackinaw City. I can’t wait, I so need to get away.

YEAH! HAHAHAHAAA