??? Is this woman rotten or just really stupid? I usually give people too much credit for possessing more intelligence than they actually have (or use?) so I tend to think she might be rotten. Especially with all the other BS she has pulled. But it may actually be a combination of the two–rottenness and stupidity…then I feel bad for even “picking” on her because she obviously has some serious problems and issues.
Not to beat a dead horse but:
My stepson’s mom supposedly cancelled his health insurance. That is what she told him when he came back from the service and decided to live with us. According to my stepson she actually told him, “Have your dad put you on his insurance.” Yeah, like it is that easy. And thanks for caring.
So here my stepson is thinking he does not have health insurance so he has not been to the doctor and paid out-of-pocket for the TB test he needed for his EMT class. Nor has been to see a counselor that he actually needs to see due to a diagnosis of depression by a doctor and psychiatrist he saw while in the service which got him discharged from duty. If he ever wanted to go back into the service he would need to see a counselor and be shown to be free of or in control of his depression. Not to mention that if he truly is depressed then he needs to see a counselor, he needs to get that help or his depression will only get worse.
But his mom doesn’t care. She supposedly canceled his health care because he wasn’t living under her roof, most likely in a ploy to get the kid back under her control, um, roof. Hell, according to my stepson his mother doesn’t even think he is depressed. I don’t know what she thinks– that the service just let him go because he wanted to go? Because he wasn’t working out?
The kid has indicated a desire for counseling previously, while he was still a minor. He was afraid to ask his mom because he knew how she felt about it, that she was against it. My husband actually pressed for the kid to get some counseling and the mother agreed at the time. But of course she lied for reasons unknown…it could have something to do with a court proceeding she was pursuing against my husband at the time, I don’t know. The ultimate result was my stepson’s mom dropped the ball back then about getting a the kid some counseling. She let her kid suffer to suit her own desires and reasons.
I don’t know why this always surprises me. This kind of BS and behavior from her is nothing new. It is not like this has not been par for the course; it is her modus operandi if you will. It always does surprise and upset me. For all my faults, I do want what is best for my stepson and I do try to make it happen to the best of my ability…I expect the same and more from his own mother. Why she cannot do right by her son is something else I don’t even know…can’t figure out. It goes way beyond a difference of opinion in child rearing techniques.
To do right by her son– that must be asking for too much. At least from this woman.
So the health insurance was supposedly canceled while my stepson was in need. Truly I had a suspicion that his mother may be lying. M.O., remember? My husband and I kept telling the kid to check it out– call the insurance company to see if he was covered and for how long…ask your doctor’s office when you go for your TB test. Of course the kid didn’t.
Then we were on the kid to change his address, at least he could get the county health plan once he established residency. Of course the kid procrastinated.
Unfortunately the kid had to go to the hospital last week. He suffered some injuries to his head due to…well the kid claims it was a fall down some stairs–believe it if you want to. He did not want to go to the hospital due to his lack of insurance but his father and I insisted. Truly, he needed to. He had big knots on his head and his face was all swollen. His friend, who drove him home, said he had passed out a couple of times. He had to go to the hospital.
The kid is alright, in a sense. No concussion or brain injury, just bruising to his scalp. He is alright physically. Luckily they checked for insurance at the hospital. He has insurance and it is through his mother. She never canceled it.
So why lie to the kid about it?
Why play games about something so important?
Why make the kid think he has no insurance?
This is what his mom told him: So he would learn how to pay for something on his own.
O M G! How idiotic. Total BS!
First of all, the time for that lesson has passed. The kid is 19 and she should have taught him how to pay for stuff on his own when he lived with her and had a job. In fact I kind of thought some of that lesson had already been taught because the kid did pay for part of the car that his mother gifted him but then took back when he didn’t do what she wanted him to do (and what lesson is he supposed to learn from that?). He paid for his auto insurance, his own laptop, and according to him even paid for food, sometimes for his mother and sister when she was short of money.
Second of all, the kid, without health insurance, would be more likely to not even utilize any health services (expensive services to begin with) knowing he did not have a way to pay for it because he is unemployed and basically has been since he was discharged from the service. How much do you think the kid is able to pay for with no income? It would be his dad and I loaning him the money if anything (or the kid ultimately ruining his credit when bills came due and he couldn’t pay for them); of course the kid doesn’t want to ask us for much extra since we are already supporting him. And if we did pay for any health care expense, well, that kind of goes against any supposed ‘lesson’ the kid may learn (HA! –that she may be trying to teach him). And to mess with something so important as the kid’s health insurance, health care, his very well-being– it just boggles the mind.
I hate to think if the kid had gotten really sick or had a serious injury. Would he have gone for treatment or just suffered? Hell, he didn’t want to go for treatment for his injuries last week.
And then I think of the counseling he needs…
…and he does need it. It is hard for me to tell if he is depressed or not but if he claims to be then he should go to counseling regardless. There are many issues that need to be addressed and worked out.
My stepson’s mom isn’t just being stupid, she is being downright rotten in my book. After all she told the kid to have his dad put him on his health care– what if my husband had done so? He would be paying for the kids care and for what? For the kid to have double coverage…all the while this rotten bitch knows she is also providing health care coverage… but lied about it! And what kind of lesson would the kid get from having his dad pay for his health care? What kind of lesson is the kid getting now?
I think she may just have made up that BS lie or excuse now to cover her ass, to preserve her own image in the eyes of the kid and others.
So she is willing to play with her own child’s well-being in order to further her little games (for control?), and to suit her self-righteous attitude. How lovely.
Yeah, I just don’t even know, but in my book this woman is both stupid and rotten…
…but especially rotten.
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