Jacquelyn's Space

Push some people’s buttons, LOL! I am so mean and rotten. My sister-in-law (has issues, to put it nicely) was pissed at me because she agreed to throw our niece a baby shower and roped me into having the shower at my house — she really put me on the spot, I might add, and at my own graduation party!

I agreed to host the shower because I thought it might be fun and I wanted to do something nice for the daughter of a sister-in-law who has really helped me and my family out. Well little did I know what I was getting in to with the sister-in-law with whom I am planning the shower. First she got pissed because she thinks our niece is ungrateful and is treating her horribly. Truth be told, I don’t know why she expected otherwise because the girl is always ungrateful (she really is immature and spoiled) and does not know how to treat people.

Then my sister-in-law got pissed at me because I refused to let my niece’s behavior bother me (at least bend me out of shape — I’ve been down that road before and it got me nowhere); I also refused to let my niece’s behavior change what I agreed to do as far as the shower is concerned so my sister-in-law is not happy with me at all — she wanted to drop out of it all together and I think wanted me to also; I feel that would just be rotten at this point. Why the hell did she even want to throw a shower for the girl when she knows very well what the girl is like and that her (and my) efforts more than likely will not be appreciated? I don’t know what she was thinking (she says she was thinking about the baby but she should have just bought a nice gift for the baby and called it good). I am just trying to live up to my word and throw a nice shower with as little expense and drama as possible…I guess I am about to be punished for my optimism.

Already my sister-in-law is pissed at me (for no good reason in my opinion). Well, yesterday I went over there to drop off the invitations I printed so she could mail them out. She wanted to mail them out (control issues I think) so that was fine by me. I took my Dad with me over there so I wouldn’t have to talk to this woman about how unhappy she is over my niece, the shower, and my positive attitude — I had been on the phone with her numerous times the week before, and for hours, going round and round the same issues. I keep telling her I just want to get the invites out and then we can hash the rest out after my stepson’s graduation open house (and my nephews too) — those events actually come first and there is 3 weeks between the open houses and the shower…plenty of time to get everything else together since we have it all planned, we just need to buy stuff. My sister-in-law, through all her complaining seems to want to make the shower the center of her world now. Grrr. I do not…I am not about to put this shower before my own stepson’s open house! But I went to my sister-in-law’s house to take care of the invitations. She was talking to me and my Dad about how tore up her house is and how she likes to do projects but lacks the time and money…and that her husband (my husband’s brother) is not handy at all. Well, silly me, before I could really think about how it might piss off my sister-in-law, said, “I guess I got the handy brother…my husband just built a little barn all on his own.” I am so horrible…I had to brag on my husband though…he works so hard and I am very proud of him. I know my sister-in-law hated me in that moment, ha, but it wasn’t an intentional dig…I just like to give my husband the credit he deserves and I really can’t help it that some people are so determined to be unhappy. Oh well, I am sure my sister-in-law will get over it eventually.