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About this time five years ago my reception was winding down — maybe about an hour left to go…didn’t want to see it end but my husband and I had a lovely night after our reception, which included drinking wine and beer with friends on the porch of Cromaine Lodge, Waldenwoods. I want to do that again someday.

Tonight I set us up with romantic candlelit dinner in honor of our anniversary. We had steak, baked potatoes, imported cheeses and a sweet wine. I set out mementos from our wedding — silk flowers I used to represent his parents at the ceremony, a crystal version of our wedding invite, our napkins — and our initialed champagne flutes. I lit my favorite candles — Grand Hotel geranium scented ones — and it all made for a gorgeous evening. The neighbors were even lighting fireworks. My husband and I went out on our patio and sat admiring the stars. Now on to more fun 😉

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Today is me and my wonderful husband’s fifth anniversary. I wish he could stay home from work today…ha, it is the anniversary of wood. My husband says we got that covered, hee hee.

I can’t believe it has been 5 years since our lovely wedding. It really was a great day and I wish I could do it all over again. I remember, 5 years ago today I didn’t really go to sleep until about 6am — the sun was just beginning to rise over Lake Walden.

Married 5 years…not a very long time but we have been together for 13 years. I look back over the years and see all my husband and I have been through together — the ups and the downs; I think about what might have happened if I hadn’t met him — he has been so good to me and for me (he really is the sweetest man and I am extremely fortunate); but I mostly think about all the fun times we have had — talking (and other fun activities, lol), our walks and hikes, playing games (pool, Monopoly, on the Wii), and traveling, of course traveling (Up North, Cedar Point, North Carolina, Chicago, Disney and the Bahamas, and my favorite, Mackinac Island). If only we could shut out all the rest of the drama and people’s BS and stay in our protective bubble… I suppose life would be pretty boring but we have so much fun together, just the two of us that I think we’d be alright. I really wish we could just hop in the car and travel around Lake Michigan. Maybe someday…

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Aww! This just made me cry –it is my husband’s facebook status today:

It was five years ago today I married the most wonderful and beautiful person I know. Happy Anniversary to my totally awesome wife, Jackie!!! I love you!

Oh yes I do, I just find myself saying that often — “I don’t understand people” or “What is wrong with people” — grrr. I do understand people and I understand what motivates them and I find people’s desires and/or ego get in the way of doing what is best for them, or doing the right thing too  much these days. Sadly, there is a prevalence of the “It’s all about me” attitude, not to mention impulsiveness these days.
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What I don’t understand is why people don’t use sense more… you know, use the brain God gave them. I was going to say ‘their sense’ but I suppose a lot of people do not have any sense, don’t really value logic, and are too lazy to use their brain. Well I suppose this all goes toward impulsiveness too but for years (since I worked in retail in the late 90s, really) I have noticed that people are really freaking lazy, especially about thinking and figuring things out, and would rather have someone else do even their brain-work for them on even those most basic of tasks. It is really tragic and I think this is what has led to too many of our social problems, the poor economy being one aspect. Too many of us are more than happy to be led down a treacherous path without really thinking about the consequences of our desires…all because we would rather not put our brain to use or haven’t developed the capacity. It is easier to let someone, or even ourselves, feed us what we want to hear (feed our egos), like: “You deserve it” or “You can do it” or “You should have it” or “You are the best” to “You are always right”…positive bullshit that blinds and inhibits the use of sense and logic. I suppose it is painful to think about practicalities, about negative aspects of anything so just keep your rose-colored glasses on, put your brain on neutral, and sit back and enjoy the ride…

or should I say, enjoy the crashing and burning?

and taking others down with you…

its like drunk driving…its all about me me me, pleasure,and having no sense at all.