Here is a nice little video about the benefits of sex. Something to keep in mind: 30 minutes of sex burns 85 calories. ;p
Yet Again, More Weight Loss Inspiration:
Looking for the magic to inspire me to get off my ass and get serious about losing weight. Off and on the past couple of months I have been more active. I have also been eating less and trying to eat healthier but I have not been a hard ass about it. I really want to get ‘hardcore’ about setting goals and sticking to some plan. It is the only way I am going to achieve some serious weight loss, which I need. I do not want to be fat for my graduation, or for the rest of my life.
Antisocial
I am feeling so ‘antisocial’ lately. I just want to stay home, read my favorite books, dream, imagine (get lost in make believe, ha) and write to my heart’s content. ‘I vant to be alone’. It is very frustrating though because there are many things I should be doing and I feel like I let my husband down when I want to be this alone. Plus it is lonely. I usually can deal with it pretty well because I generally like being by myself (I am comfortable being by myself) but I have this very persistant, plaguing notion I am letting myself and loved ones down. I have got a few things done, like a whole lot of laundry and I organized my linen closet (oh joy). I also have all my books for fall semester and I have started reading. I almost feel like I need this time before things get too hectic again. I am soon to start working for the Census again – before I know it school will be starting which will be pretty hectic with my internship and all. Ugh, getting anxious. Time to get back to reading Anne of Green Gables and imagining. 
Greta Garbo, famous actress and noted recluse. She has been credited with saying "I vant to be alone." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greta_Garbo
StepMom Magazine
I recently subscribed to an online publicaton called StepMom Magazine. I was enticed through thier facebook page. I discovered it some time ago but for some reason I was hesitant to subscribe. I guess it is because so much of the attitude of people toward stepmothers seems to be basically ‘shut up and put up’. Even some stepmothers advise others this way usually in a gentle manner. I obviously don’t agree with that philosophy (well generally speaking) so I was disatisfied with much being published about being a stepmother. This online publication goes beyond that philosophy as well as explores topics other than ‘finding yourself’ outside of the stepmother and wife role. It explores topics such as parental alienation, biomoms gone bad, the pain of divorce, how kids deal with divorce, etc. I love it! Just what I needed – I am so excited to have found it.
An article in the June publication deals with ‘taboo subjects stepmothers are afraid to talk about’ (by Jacquelyn B. Fletcher). It is a little cliche IMHO but also has some interesting points. I suppose I am quick to dismiss topics I feel that don’t fit my experience like ‘Jealous when my husband kisses or hugs my stepdaughter or angry when one of the kids sits between us on purpose.’ I have never felt that because I love it when my husband and stepson spend time together. Granted I don’t have a stepdaughter (and perhaps that is a little different dynamic) and I have a unique role as a stepmother (I have always had to provide transportation since my husband does not drive). I wish they could spend more time together without me having to be involved, haha. Well all that is changing ’cause my stepson cn drive now.
I like this topic: ‘Horrified at the ex-wife’s behavior’. Of course I don’t feel like that is a ‘taboo subject’ to talk about other than talking about it with my stepson. I feel like that type of thing should be talked about more and more because there are a lot of biomoms out there gettting away with an awful lot of crappy behavior which is detrimental to their children.
I love this advice from the author:
"Turn on your curiosity."
"If you are stuck wishing your stepchildren would stay at their mom’s house or fantasizing that the ex is hit by a bus, try turning on your curiosity. Ask yourself questions that spark your interest such as: I wonder why my stepson is so belligerent today. Maybe something happened at school. Maybe he’s hitting puberty? I wonder why the ex is so angry? Could she be scared? Could she be insecure because she thinks I’ll judge her? You can bet that if you’ve had a terrible, horrible thought about your stepfamily life, another stepmother has had the exact same thought. Even better? Instead of dwelling only on what isn’t working you can decide to focus on positive thoughts and actions that can help you build a happy stepfamily." (Fletcher, StepMom Magazine June 2010)
This is good advice. I have actually been doing this since I met my husband and stepson although I will admit I sometimes have trouble focusing on the positive when my husband’s ex is at her worst. I can actually say that the problems I have with being a stepmother, being in a ‘blended family’ or whatever have not had a lot to do with my stepson or husband but more to do with processing the anger, the bad behavior of my husband’s ex.
http://www.facebook.com/pages/StepMom-Magazine/46484521686
http://www.stepmommag.com/Default.aspx
Wish
Today is my Mommy’s 60th birthday! It is hard to believe my parents are really that old, haha. How can this be possible when I still feel like their little girl? I remember one surprise party we had for my Mom back when she was young, younger than I am now (it must have been before her parents died). She was so thin and looked fabulous in a bikini. Superficial observation, but that is what I remember – that and her energy, optimism, and drive. She was healthier then, and happier. She still has the drive but a lot of the energy, optimism and happiness has been sapped out of her by health issues and life’s trageides, or can I say (I wanna’ write this for some reason) life’s relentlessness. I wish that for her birthday she can regain some of that happiness, that optimism and energy from her younger days. She still looks fabulous.
Mom and Me, Disney Cruise, 2005
Frida
Frida Kahlo
I saw a portion of the movie Frida this week-end and I wanted to know more about her. I just started investigating and all of a sudden I am fired up – inspired. Her life story is very interesting. I love her paintings, so colorful and dreamlike. There are deep psychological messages in them, something of the subconscious. I want to know more, see more. It is weird because her style of painting (surrealism, almost pop art) isn’t usually my cup of tea but I am drawn to them.
From wikipedia:
"Kahlo once said, ‘I paint myself because I am so often alone and because I am the subject I know best.’ " I love it! I am totally feeling that. That is my blog – I write about myself because that is what I know best. I wish I could paint.
Jacquelyn's Space 